Celebrating parties can make you feel stressed, but this strain can become magnificent when you are a divorced parent trying to juggle your child’s daycare schedule.
The opportunity to spend a special day without your children, or for less time than you normally can arouse emotions of loss and anger. However, with proper custody of vacation schedule in your parenting plan, you can minimize frustration and develop strategies so that you, the other parent and your children can have a good time
Tips for a hassle free holiday
Here are 6 strategies to address the holidays with your children after their divorce:
Create a holiday care program in advance. Do not rely on you and the other parent to resolve when it comes to holiday visits. A detailed plan describing everything, where children will be the daily schedules and the dates of the transfers between their houses, keep things quiet and low.
Make plans for all your vacations. Keep busy when your children are not with you, so that they no longer live in your absence. Plan something that is fun, relaxing and satisfying for you. It could be to meet with the extended family or try something completely new.
Keep old traditions. Even if your family has changed over the past year, you can still keep the Christmas traditions that are useful to you and your family. Although you can not do exactly the same things as in the past, keeping traditions as part of your vacation will help your children in honor of their heritage.
Create new traditions. Holidays are a perfect time to experiment with fun rituals that can lead to new family traditions. It is a way to reassure your children that changes in their vacation are not automatically a bad thing. Involve your children in the choice of new traditions.
Connect. Make plans to communicate with your children during the holidays themselves if they are not with you. Spend a few minutes with them with a phone call, a video chat or a note for your children to open. Contact with your children will help you deal with the gap and keep the connection between you strong.
Keep your feet on the ground. I do not think you have to overcompensate for activities, gifts, outings and fun times now that you are divorced and shared a holiday with the other parent. Keep vacation realistic and not high on vacation goals for you and your children. Remember that meaningful family fun time is what the kids most need.